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7 Reasons You Became a People Pleaser

7/1/2021

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People Pleasing

Self-Awareness is Useful

Do you have a habit of pleasing people while ignoring your own needs?

Understanding where this came from can be the first step to creating change.
1.  As a child you may have lacked the feeling of safety to disagree with your parents or others.  You grew up feeling your viewpoints were not important.
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2.  You may primarily feel worthy when you do things for others.  Feeling self-worth from this place can be problematic, as self-worth comes from within.
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3.  Your parents, or those you looked up to, invalidated your feelings and ignored your needs.  This in turn taught you that your feelings and your opinions didn’t matter.
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4.  You may have experienced a taste of self-worth by pleasing others that you hadn’t found elsewhere.
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5.  Your parents were emotionally unavailable.  You may have learned to dismiss your feelings or to prioritize the feelings of others at your own expense.
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6.  You were taught that being nice meant you needed to ignore what you felt.
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7.  You are a highly empathic person.  But remember that you need to direct empathy toward yourself to give from a place of abundance and within healthier limits.
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Dora Ross link
2/23/2023 12:42:47 am

I appreciate this type of article, it is beneficial. My parents have the characteristics of Emotionally Immature Parents, dramatically affecting my relationship with my wife. We often quarrel a lot with my husband because of them. The description mentioned in the article truly defines the characteristics of my in-laws. Both, my wife and even my kids don't want to be close to them, it's just that we don't have any choice at the moment because we are staying with them. They are self-centered, they care more about themselves rather than the emotional needs and even the needs of my kids. They don't respect our opinion and even that of my husband. They always think of what is best for themselves. I pray and hope to get away soon from them so I can provide care and respect for my family without their involvement. However I'm not cutting the contact, it's just that, we want to be as much as possible away from them. I'm thankful for this website and the consultation that I receive here.
https://www.mindfullyaliveonline.com/being-an-adult-child-of-emotionally-immature-parents/

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