7 Reasons You Became a People Pleaser

Self-Awareness is Useful

Do you have a habit of pleasing people while ignoring your own needs?

Understanding where this came from can be the first step to creating change.

1.  As a child you may have lacked the feeling of safety to disagree with your parents or others.  You grew up feeling your viewpoints were not important.

2.  You may primarily feel worthy when you do things for others.  Feeling self-worth from this place can be problematic, as self-worth comes from within.

3.  Your parents, or those you looked up to, invalidated your feelings and ignored your needs.  This in turn taught you that your feelings and your opinions didn’t matter.

4.  You may have experienced a taste of self-worth by pleasing others that you hadn’t found elsewhere.

5.  Your parents were emotionally unavailable.  You may have learned to dismiss your feelings or to prioritize the feelings of others at your own expense.

6.  You were taught that being nice meant you needed to ignore what you felt.

7.  You are a highly empathic person.  But remember that you need to direct empathy toward yourself to give from a place of abundance and within healthier limits.

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