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Post-Traumatic Growth?

3/19/2022

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What is Post Traumatic Growth?

Opportunities for Growth

Trauma shatters our lives in so many profound ways.

While it takes tremendous effort to heal, it can also produce some incredible opportunities for growth.

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Not Everyone Deserves You

2/13/2022

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Not Everyone Deserves You

Surround Yourself with Love

We live life more fully when we surround ourselves with people who like us, value us, and prioritize us and we do the same with them.

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Signs of Losing Yourself

1/25/2022

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Signs of Losing Yourself

Neglecting Ourselves to Protect Ourselves

When life is especially painful and challenging we can lose ourselves in the process.

It’s often a defense to protect ourselves.

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Are you the Family Scapegoat?

1/12/2022

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Family Scapegoat

Scapegoats See the Family Dysfunction

Have you felt like a lone wolf in your family that gets a lot of pressure to blend in?

Being the family scapegoat is a challenging position to be in but also gives greater freedom to chart our own course.

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Good Enough is the New Perfect

1/7/2022

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Good Enough Not Perfect

Good Enough is Enough

Giving ourselves the grace of “good enough” is a gift that keeps on giving.

The irony is that we’re often able to do/be better than we otherwise would in chasing the mythical place of perfection.

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Stop Chasing People

1/5/2022

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Stop Chasing People

Spending Our Time Wisely

It’s a self-empowering act to stop chasing people but rather spend our time more wisely with people who value our presence and naturally have time/interest in reciprocating.

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Ways to Stop Future Tripping

1/1/2022

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Stop Future Tripping

Coming Back to the Present

It’s easy to “future trip” when our present is already so challenging.

Instead of worrying about a future that may never come to fruition, coming back to the present moment and cultivating moments of playfulness, pleasure, connection and gratitude is the antidote.

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Signs of Growing up Too Fast

12/29/2021

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Growing Up Too Fast

Why We Lose Our Childhood

When we’re forced to grow up too fast, we still have childlike needs that need to be met in adulthood.

Understanding what caused us to lose our childhood and ways to reparent ourselves in adulthood is the beginning.

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Dysfunctional Societal Expectations

12/24/2021

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Dysfunctional Societal Expectations

Why We Do What We Do

When we find ourselves doing things that ultimately drain us, it’s frequently because we’ve internalized dysfunctional societal expectations.

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Reparenting Ourselves with Love

12/17/2021

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Reparenting Our Inner Child

Caring for Our Inner Child

No one has a “perfect” childhood but the need to reparent ourselves is especially critical when our needs were consistently unmet.

Childhood wounds can interrupt our lives into adulthood but thankfully we can still learn, heal and grow.

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Finding What Truly Matters

12/10/2021

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What Really Matters

Core Values Connects Us to What Matters

When we’re connected to our life’s purpose and prioritize this in our daily lives, we live more fully.

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Impact of Childhood Trauma

12/2/2021

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Impact of Childhood Trauma

Childhood Abuse Impacts Us into Adulthood

An integral part of healing from childhood abuse is recognizing the ways that it impacts us in the present.

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Introversion vs Social Anxiety

11/8/2021

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Introversion vs Social Anxiety

Introversion is Not Social Anxiety

We can confuse introversion with social anxiety, but they’re very different.

Introversion is a personality characteristic where we feel re-energized by spending alone time. It doesn’t mean we don’t also like being around people.

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Love Triggers Us All

10/1/2021

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Love Triggers Us All

Relationships Activate Past Wounds

Our most intimate relationships have a way of activating our past wounds and bringing to light the areas we need to work on.

Know that while relationships can be messy they can still be worth the price of admission.

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Being "Normal" is NOT the Goal

9/30/2021

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Am I Normal?

Living Our Most Authentic Lives Matters

One of the questions I get asked the most as a therapist is, “Am I normal?”

Underneath this question is often a desire to fit in, to belong, and to know that we’re not alone.

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Don't Use Labels as a Weapon

9/28/2021

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Labels As Weapons

Pathologizing Others Harms Us Too

Labeling other people’s behavior with derogatory and inaccurate terms is harmful for others but also for ourselves.

When we judge others harshly or project our own discomfort onto them, we’re less likely to give ourselves permission to be human and do our own growth.

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Stop Weaponizing Emotional Eating

9/26/2021

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Stop Weaponizing Emotional Eating

More Compassion, Less Stigma

We’ve received so many messed up messages about food, eating, and our bodies that we can internalize these messages in harmful ways.

Instead of pathologizing and discriminating against diverse bodies, let’s appreciate all the colors of the body rainbow.

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Overcoming Imposter Syndrome

9/24/2021

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Overcoming Imposter Syndrome

Imposter Syndrome Can Bring Growing Pains

One of my most memorable experiences feeling “Imposter Syndrome” was walking down the hallway of my new therapy office to greet my first client ever in private practice almost 22 years ago.

Feeling the anxiety of intense self-doubt can be paralyzing but it also can be the result of growing pains.

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Toxic Positivity Doesn't Work

9/23/2021

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Toxic Positivity Doesn't Work

Toxic Positivity is a Psychological Bypass

When we deny anything considered “negative” in our lives and turn everything into a positive, we limit our natural experiences in life and we become less authentic.

Toxic positivity is fake positivity that becomes a psychological bypass over anything uncomfortable.

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Healing Isn't Linear

9/21/2021

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Process of Healing

Healing Comes With Progress & Set Backs

Healing is often a slow and steady process with plenty of setbacks.

That’s perfectly okay.

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Denying Your Pain Doesn't Make you Stronger

9/20/2021

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Being Vulnerable is Courageous

Being Vulnerable is Courageous

It makes us stronger to acknowledge our pain and more likely that we can heal when we do so.

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Time Doesn't Heal All Wounds

9/19/2021

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Time Doesn't Heal All Wounds

How We Use Our Time Matters

We don’t automatically heal or gain wisdom with the passing of time.

It’s how we use our lived experiences that gives us that.

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Self-Criticism Stalls Healing

9/17/2021

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Self-Criticism Stalls Healing

Self-Criticism Often Leads to Repeat Behaviors

We believe that if we punish ourselves for past behaviors, that we’ll be less likely to repeat them.

Unfortunately, the opposite is true.

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Signs Your Boss is a Narcissist

9/16/2021

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Signs Your Boss is a Narcissist

Awareness is Key to Self-Empowerment

Having a self-absorbed perfectionist for a boss can be a huge headache and even detrimental to our health and well-being in larger ways.

Interacting with them can erode our confidence and sense of reality as we’re constantly mistreated and even blamed for their own failures.

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Caring for Your Inner Child

9/14/2021

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Caring for Your Inner Child

Replacing Self-Judgment with Self-Compassion

Our “Inner Child” represents that part of ourselves that is playful, creative and yet has also been hurt.

Instead of kicking ourselves when we’re down, we can learn to console ourselves with encouragement and love.

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