 Taking Action Can Bring InsightHaving insight is certainly helpful but it’s not necessary for change.
Knowing ourselves is a life-long journey where we learn how to navigate life well.
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 Self-Reflection Doesn't Always Include ChangingWe cannot please everyone.
Sometimes our actions, words or beliefs make other people feel uncomfortable.  We Can Have Internal Resolution without ForgivenessWhile forgiveness is useful for minor offenses in ongoing relationships it isn’t a requirement for healing larger-scale abuses.
We too often are too quick to forgive as a way of trying to avoid the pain of what it actually takes to do so.  Get Curious Where Feelings Come FromJust because we’re feeling something — like anger, sadness, or hurt — doesn’t mean that it justifies or excuses our behaviors.
If we’re too quick to react when we’re activated we can make more mistakes.  Being Curious Instead of Judgmental Of OurselvesInstead of getting lost in the drama of toxic relationships, it’s a better use of our time to mindfully explore what draws us to them in the first place.
 Awareness of Settling is KeySettling for someone that isn’t a good enough fit is problematic for all involved.
We don’t need to judge them or ourselves as better, simply to acknowledge that the combo isn’t working well enough.  What is the Inner Critic?Our Inner Critic is that part of ourselves that judges us no matter what we say or do.
It operates to protect us from rejection, embarrassment and failure but does so in a way that causes us harm.  Why Do We Crave Stress?If we grew up in chaotic homes, we can equate intensity with love and aliveness.
It becomes a security blanket that suffocates our ability to more thoroughly enjoy life.  Triggers are Part of the Healing ProcessThe word “triggers” has been popularized to mean any kind of discomfort or stressor in life.
 Saying No is EssentialOne of the essential ways we can set healthier boundaries is by saying no.
Knowing a variety of ways of saying no can help us when it’s especially difficult to do so.  Urgency Culture Leads to Burn OutWe’re living in a society that demands that we’re in a constant state of urgency.
Recognizing this auto-pilot way of doing things gives us a pause to shift our pace so we can slow down and choose differently.  Exploring our Blind SpotsIf we want to be in a long term relationship but keep finding ourselves with someone who isn’t available, it’s likely there’s something unconscious going on.
The more we can be curious, instead of judgmental, the more we can look at our blind spots to increase self-awareness about this dynamic and make subsequent changes.  Codependency DefinitionCodependency is when we live our lives through over-identifying with others feelings, beliefs, and needs to the point where we lose our sense of self.
 Don't Let Your Hurt Child Run Your Adult LifeHow we show up for our hurt child makes all the difference in how much we enjoy our adult life.
 6 Steps to Reparenting YourselfThe concept of reparenting yourself may seem odd but can be so instrumental in your process of healing, growth and enjoyment of life.
 Feeling Satisfaction with ProgressFeeling a sense of satisfaction by our progress to date is a sign of healing. Here are some others.
 Never Too LateWhile it’s never too late to learn and hopefully we’re doing so throughout our lives, learning some lessons earlier can help us navigate life better.
 Accountability Can Lead to Self-EmpowermentWhen accountability is operating at its best, it’s an empowering agent of change.
 Self-Awareness is UsefulDo you have a habit of pleasing people while ignoring your own needs?
Understanding where this came from can be the first step to creating change.  Who Am I?That part of us that we call “self” is our ego.
Our ‘ego’ is that part that makes conscious adult decisions, and essentially mediates between the more impulsive child-like part of ourselves (id) and the moralistic parent-like part (superego).  Recognition of Juneteenth is Progress ForwardI'm thrilled that Juneteenth will now be honored as an official US holiday!
While there is so much more to be done in the fight for social and racial justice, this is one positive and significant step moving forward.  Our Mindset MattersRadical change comes with a radical shift in our mindset.
Success requires us to take ourselves off autopilot and reflect on the messages we’re telling ourselves that are NOT helpful.  Healing is a ProcessThere are moments of progress and steps back to old ways of being. The process of healing and growing is not a straight line. 🔀
 Internal Battles Are PainfulWhen we don’t protect ourselves and each other enough during this pandemic we can experience inner conflict.
One side of us wants freedom and connection while the other side desires safety and care. |
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