Neglecting Ourselves to Protect Ourselves
When life is especially painful and challenging we can lose ourselves in the process.
It’s often a defense to protect ourselves.
Good Enough is Enough
Giving ourselves the grace of “good enough” is a gift that keeps on giving.
The irony is that we’re often able to do/be better than we otherwise would in chasing the mythical place of perfection.
Coming Back to the Present
It’s easy to “future trip” when our present is already so challenging.
Instead of worrying about a future that may never come to fruition, coming back to the present moment and cultivating moments of playfulness, pleasure, connection and gratitude is the antidote.
Why We Do What We Do
When we find ourselves doing things that ultimately drain us, it’s frequently because we’ve internalized dysfunctional societal expectations.
Caring for Our Inner Child
No one has a “perfect” childhood but the need to reparent ourselves is especially critical when our needs were consistently unmet.
Childhood wounds can interrupt our lives into adulthood but thankfully we can still learn, heal and grow.
Benefits of Neurotransmitters
Having our hormones in balance helps us live life more fully.
There are many things we can do to naturally boost the right amounts of chemicals in our bodies.
Introversion is Not Social Anxiety
We can confuse introversion with social anxiety, but they’re very different.
Introversion is a personality characteristic where we feel re-energized by spending alone time. It doesn’t mean we don’t also like being around people.
Imposter Syndrome Can Bring Growing Pains
One of my most memorable experiences feeling “Imposter Syndrome” was walking down the hallway of my new therapy office to greet my first client ever in private practice almost 22 years ago.
Feeling the anxiety of intense self-doubt can be paralyzing but it also can be the result of growing pains.
Replacing Self-Judgment with Self-Compassion
Our “Inner Child” represents that part of ourselves that is playful, creative and yet has also been hurt.
Instead of kicking ourselves when we’re down, we can learn to console ourselves with encouragement and love.
Finding Balance with Our Feelings
“Feeling our feelings” can be taken to an extreme where we’re doing it 24/7.
This is about striking the right balance between overindulging & ruminating on one side and denying or ignoring on the other.
Taking Action Can Bring Insight
Having insight is certainly helpful but it’s not necessary for change.
Knowing ourselves is a life-long journey where we learn how to navigate life well.
Thoughts are Just Thoughts
You are NOT what you think!
Actually, all of us have 1000’s of thoughts per day, some of them that repeat.
What is the Inner Critic?
Our Inner Critic is that part of ourselves that judges us no matter what we say or do.
It operates to protect us from rejection, embarrassment and failure but does so in a way that causes us harm.
Why Do We Crave Stress?
If we grew up in chaotic homes, we can equate intensity with love and aliveness.
It becomes a security blanket that suffocates our ability to more thoroughly enjoy life.
Triggers are Part of the Healing Process
The word “triggers” has been popularized to mean any kind of discomfort or stressor in life.
It's not worth losing ourselves!
Our mental health matters WAY more than, “Winning the gold!”
When we neglect our mental health in the pursuit of success we put ourselves at risk of losing ourselves in the process. So not worth it!
Urgency Culture Leads to Burn Out
We’re living in a society that demands that we’re in a constant state of urgency.
Recognizing this auto-pilot way of doing things gives us a pause to shift our pace so we can slow down and choose differently.
Mental Health Awareness
Living with a mental illness is challenging, even if you’re able to function well enough to maintain a job and personal life.
Thankfully, there are many treatments and supports available. #mentalhealthawareness
Body Awareness is Freeing
Returning to your body is the ultimate resource for finding freedom within.
When you’re activated, coming back to your body is a way of grounding yourself.
Anxiety is a Normal Response
Anxiety is a normal response to stressful situations but when it gets out of hand, can lead to intense distress, obsessive thoughts, phobias and even panic attacks. 😱
Internal Battles Are Painful
When we don’t protect ourselves and each other enough during this pandemic we can experience inner conflict.
One side of us wants freedom and connection while the other side desires safety and care.
Out with the Old & In with the New
There are many coping styles that we use depending on our creativity, resources and early modeling.
It’s crucial that we don’t judge them.