Good Enough is the New Perfect
Good Enough is Enough
Giving ourselves the grace of “good enough” is a gift that keeps on giving.
The irony is that we’re often able to do/be better than we otherwise would in chasing the mythical place of perfection.
Reparenting Ourselves with Love
Caring for Our Inner Child
No one has a “perfect” childhood but the need to reparent ourselves is especially critical when our needs were consistently unmet.
Childhood wounds can interrupt our lives into adulthood but thankfully we can still learn, heal and grow.
Don't Feel All Your Feelings
Finding the Right Balance
Anything taken to an extreme can become problematic.
We don’t need to attend to all feelings and all thoughts.
Stop Weaponizing Emotional Eating
More Compassion, Less Stigma
We’ve received so many messed up messages about food, eating, and our bodies that we can internalize these messages in harmful ways.
Instead of pathologizing and discriminating against diverse bodies, let’s appreciate all the colors of the body rainbow.
Overcoming Imposter Syndrome
Imposter Syndrome Can Bring Growing Pains
One of my most memorable experiences feeling “Imposter Syndrome” was walking down the hallway of my new therapy office to greet my first client ever in private practice almost 22 years ago.
Feeling the anxiety of intense self-doubt can be paralyzing but it also can be the result of growing pains.
Toxic Positivity Doesn't Work
Toxic Positivity is a Psychological Bypass
When we deny anything considered “negative” in our lives and turn everything into a positive, we limit our natural experiences in life and we become less authentic.
Toxic positivity is fake positivity that becomes a psychological bypass over anything uncomfortable.
Healing Isn't Linear
Healing Comes With Progress & Set Backs
Healing is often a slow and steady process with plenty of setbacks.
That’s perfectly okay.
Self-Criticism Stalls Healing
Self-Criticism Often Leads to Repeat Behaviors
We believe that if we punish ourselves for past behaviors, that we’ll be less likely to repeat them.
Unfortunately, the opposite is true.
Poor Behaviors Aren't Necessary
Just because we feel strongly about something doesn’t mean we have the right to treat others poorly.
This isn’t about perfection or being robotic, it’s about learning and taking responsibility for our lives
Caring for Your Inner Child
Replacing Self-Judgment with Self-Compassion
Our “Inner Child” represents that part of ourselves that is playful, creative and yet has also been hurt.
Instead of kicking ourselves when we’re down, we can learn to console ourselves with encouragement and love.
Finding Balance with Our Feelings
“Feeling our feelings” can be taken to an extreme where we’re doing it 24/7.
This is about striking the right balance between overindulging & ruminating on one side and denying or ignoring on the other.
You Are NOT What You Think
Thoughts are Just Thoughts
You are NOT what you think!
Actually, all of us have 1000’s of thoughts per day, some of them that repeat.
Kindness is a Powerful Tool for Change
Being kind is too often mistaken for being nice, passive or a pushover.
Instead, kindness is a powerful tool for change.
What is the Inner Critic?
Our Inner Critic is that part of ourselves that judges us no matter what we say or do.
It operates to protect us from rejection, embarrassment and failure but does so in a way that causes us harm.
What Do You Need?
We can’t possibly meet ALL of our own needs.
We are ALL interconnected.
Exploring our Blind Spots
If we want to be in a long term relationship but keep finding ourselves with someone who isn’t available, it’s likely there’s something unconscious going on.
The more we can be curious, instead of judgmental, the more we can look at our blind spots to increase self-awareness about this dynamic and make subsequent changes.
Attend to Your Inner Hurt Child
Don't Let Your Hurt Child Run Your Adult Life
How we show up for our hurt child makes all the difference in how much we enjoy our adult life.
Never Too Late
While it’s never too late to learn and hopefully we’re doing so throughout our lives, learning some lessons earlier can help us navigate life better.
Mental Health Awareness
Living with a mental illness is challenging, even if you’re able to function well enough to maintain a job and personal life.
Thankfully, there are many treatments and supports available. #mentalhealthawareness
How to Become Aware of Your Ego
Who Am I?
That part of us that we call “self” is our ego.
Our ‘ego’ is that part that makes conscious adult decisions, and essentially mediates between the more impulsive child-like part of ourselves (id) and the moralistic parent-like part (superego).
How to Connect to Your Body
Body Awareness is Freeing
Returning to your body is the ultimate resource for finding freedom within.
When you’re activated, coming back to your body is a way of grounding yourself.
Our Mindset Matters
Radical change comes with a radical shift in our mindset.
Success requires us to take ourselves off autopilot and reflect on the messages we’re telling ourselves that are NOT helpful.
What is Cognitive Dissonance?
Internal Battles Are Painful
When we don’t protect ourselves and each other enough during this pandemic we can experience inner conflict.
One side of us wants freedom and connection while the other side desires safety and care.
Out with the Old & In with the New
There are many coping styles that we use depending on our creativity, resources and early modeling.
It’s crucial that we don’t judge them.
4 Responses to Trauma
Trauma Response to Witnessing Events
Witnessing the insurrectionary riot on the US Capitol is traumatic.
Vicarious trauma is when our nervous system responds to seeing or hearing about a traumatic event as if it’s happening to us directly.