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 Challenges in Asking for What We NeedOur core relationship needs — for things like quality time, validation, empathy, variety, an apology, and boundaries — are often challenging to address.
What do we say? How do we assert our needs by making requests, not demands?  Opportunities for GrowthTrauma shatters our lives in so many profound ways.
While it takes tremendous effort to heal, it can also produce some incredible opportunities for growth.  Relationship Satisfaction CharacteristicsWhile we all know by now that the perfect partner doesn’t exist, there ARE some traits that significantly increase our enjoyment in relationships. 💙
 Differing Communication StylesThere’s value in asserting our needs both directly and sensitively.
Misunderstandings and hurt feelings happen more easily when someone else is operating from a different way of making requests.  Resentments Are Toxic to RelationshipsRepeated experiences of slights and mistreatments that are unresolved build resentment in relationships.
When we address them along the way, they have less power over us and our relationships have a better opportunity to function at their best.  Misunderstandings Are InevitableDon’t you hate it when people misunderstand you?
When we recognize that this is inevitable some of the time, and redirect our energy into coming back home to the truth of what we know about ourselves, we re-empower ourselves.  Fake Apologies Create Distance in RelationshipsFake apologies are problematic in multiple ways, including:
 Addressing Conflict Quickly Feeds RelationshipsWhen we’re able to quickly repair conflict in relationships, we can move on to enjoying all that they have to offer.
 Leading with Compassion Isn't EasyPassive-aggressive communication can be extremely frustrating to receive and challenging to address.
Leading with compassion and curiosity allows us the freedom to name it while also not getting hooked in perpetuating this communication style.  Feeding Our Relationships with LoveHow do you feel most loved?
Giving and receiving love with friends, family and partners helps our relationships thrive AND often they require other interventions to function at their best.  Surround Yourself with LoveWe live life more fully when we surround ourselves with people who like us, value us, and prioritize us and we do the same with them.
 Knowing When to End FriendshipsSometimes we hold on to friendships too long and sometimes we end them too soon.
Knowing why friendships become problematic can help us understand if there’s something we can do to make them better or if it’s time to walk away.  Loneliness is Feeling Profound DisconnectionWe can feel deep loneliness whether we’re surrounded by people or not.
It can get even worse with forced isolation.  Competing Needs for Autonomy versus ConnectionWe all have needs for independence/autonomy AND connectedness/togetherness.
These can feel like competing forces but when we integrate them in healthier ways, we experience interdependency.  Work Friendships Are ComplicatedWork friendships are often complicated with competing personal and professional needs.
We need to recognize the signs when they become toxic so that we can limit our contact or set stronger boundaries.  Neglecting Ourselves to Protect OurselvesWhen life is especially painful and challenging we can lose ourselves in the process.
It’s often a defense to protect ourselves. |
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