Internalizing the Critical Parent
When we have a parent or caregiver that’s overly critical of us, we can internalize these messages into adulthood and do it to ourselves.
Instead of judging ourselves for being judgmental, we can use the tool of mindfulness to notice how this impacts us, where it comes from and be curious so that we can begin the process of increasing self-compassion.
It's not worth losing ourselves!
Our mental health matters WAY more than, “Winning the gold!”
When we neglect our mental health in the pursuit of success we put ourselves at risk of losing ourselves in the process. So not worth it!
Recognizing Signs without Judgment
Recognizing the signs someone is emotionally unavailable frees us up to find the right fit with someone else who is ready for what we want.
We don’t need to pathologize them or us in the process.
We can’t possibly meet ALL of our own needs.
We are ALL interconnected.
Saying No is Essential
One of the essential ways we can set healthier boundaries is by saying no.
Knowing a variety of ways of saying no can help us when it’s especially difficult to do so.
Urgency Culture Leads to Burn Out
We’re living in a society that demands that we’re in a constant state of urgency.
Recognizing this auto-pilot way of doing things gives us a pause to shift our pace so we can slow down and choose differently.
The Grass Isn't Often Greener
With so many options that encourage you to keep looking, it can be challenging to know if you’ve met the right person.
Recognizing when you’ve met the right match gives you the opportunity to more thoroughly enjoy and feed that relationship.
Exploring our Blind Spots
If we want to be in a long term relationship but keep finding ourselves with someone who isn’t available, it’s likely there’s something unconscious going on.
The more we can be curious, instead of judgmental, the more we can look at our blind spots to increase self-awareness about this dynamic and make subsequent changes.
Perseverant to a Fault
Just like in intimate relationships, sometimes we stay in unhappy friendships for far too long despite how problematic or dissatisfying they’ve become.
There are some essentials that we deserve to give and receive in relationships that help them function at their best.
Codependency is when we live our lives through over-identifying with others feelings, beliefs, and needs to the point where we lose our sense of self.
Don't Let Your Hurt Child Run Your Adult Life
How we show up for our hurt child makes all the difference in how much we enjoy our adult life.
Being Proactive is Key
The way we show up in relationships is ultimately what makes them easier.
It takes some upfront proactive work but can save a lot of unnecessary time and drama along the way.
6 Steps to Reparenting Yourself
The concept of reparenting yourself may seem odd but can be so instrumental in your process of healing, growth and enjoyment of life.
Feeling Satisfaction with Progress
Feeling a sense of satisfaction by our progress to date is a sign of healing. Here are some others.
Lead with Care & Kindness
The most dismissive and unhelpful thing we can say to someone who’s upset is “calm down.”
It’s another way of saying, don’t feel what you’re feeling, it’s making me uncomfortable.
Never Too Late
While it’s never too late to learn and hopefully we’re doing so throughout our lives, learning some lessons earlier can help us navigate life better.
Mental Health Awareness
Living with a mental illness is challenging, even if you’re able to function well enough to maintain a job and personal life.
Thankfully, there are many treatments and supports available. #mentalhealthawareness
Accountability Can Lead to Self-Empowerment
When accountability is operating at its best, it’s an empowering agent of change.
Recognize Signs of Gaslighting
Have you ever had someone question your reality when even the truth was observable and obvious?
This is likely an example of gaslighting where someone else denies the truth and tries to instill doubt in you.
Shorter-Term Relationships Can Be Successful Too
A common misconception about relationships is that the only measure of their success is how long they last.
Self-Awareness is Key
Red flags in new friendships and relationships tell us that something is potentially problematic about the other person or our dynamic with them.
Red flags can be things like:
The Art of Effective Communication
Learning the art of effective communication is key to healthier and more enjoyable relationships.
Part of that process is making simple, understandable and specific requests.
Sensitive People are Gifts to Us
Sensitive Souls are gifts to our world.
At their best, they teach us to be kinder, more generous and compassionate.
Self-Awareness is Useful
Do you have a habit of pleasing people while ignoring your own needs?
Understanding where this came from can be the first step to creating change.