Challenges in Asking for What We Need
Our core relationship needs — for things like quality time, validation, empathy, variety, an apology, and boundaries — are often challenging to address.
What do we say? How do we assert our needs by making requests, not demands?
Knowing and asserting our needs well in relationship is challenging to do.
It's critical to make requests, not demands, in asserting our needs.
Examples of Asserting Our Core Needs:
"Can we talk? I have something important I need to share."
"Can we have a date night? I miss having quality time with you."
"I need to hear that you understand and care about my feelings."
"I need you to take responsibility and apologize."
"Can we talk about our sexual relationship? I need more variety."
"I enjoy being with you and I also need some alone time and time with friends/family."