Recognizing Signs without Judgment
Recognizing the signs someone is emotionally unavailable frees us up to find the right fit with someone else who is ready for what we want.
We don’t need to pathologize them or us in the process.
We can’t possibly meet ALL of our own needs.
We are ALL interconnected.
Saying No is Essential
One of the essential ways we can set healthier boundaries is by saying no.
Knowing a variety of ways of saying no can help us when it’s especially difficult to do so.
The Grass Isn't Often Greener
With so many options that encourage you to keep looking, it can be challenging to know if you’ve met the right person.
Recognizing when you’ve met the right match gives you the opportunity to more thoroughly enjoy and feed that relationship.
Exploring our Blind Spots
If we want to be in a long term relationship but keep finding ourselves with someone who isn’t available, it’s likely there’s something unconscious going on.
The more we can be curious, instead of judgmental, the more we can look at our blind spots to increase self-awareness about this dynamic and make subsequent changes.
There are some essentials that we deserve to give and receive in relationships that help them function at their best.
Being Proactive is Key
The way we show up in relationships is ultimately what makes them easier.
It takes some upfront proactive work but can save a lot of unnecessary time and drama along the way.
Never Too Late
While it’s never too late to learn and hopefully we’re doing so throughout our lives, learning some lessons earlier can help us navigate life better.
Recognize Signs of Gaslighting
Have you ever had someone question your reality when even the truth was observable and obvious?
This is likely an example of gaslighting where someone else denies the truth and tries to instill doubt in you.
Shorter-Term Relationships Can Be Successful Too
A common misconception about relationships is that the only measure of their success is how long they last.
The Art of Effective Communication
Learning the art of effective communication is key to healthier and more enjoyable relationships.
Part of that process is making simple, understandable and specific requests.
Sensitive People are Gifts to Us
Sensitive Souls are gifts to our world.
At their best, they teach us to be kinder, more generous and compassionate.
Self-Awareness is Useful
Do you have a habit of pleasing people while ignoring your own needs?
Understanding where this came from can be the first step to creating change.
Essential Core Values are Key
No person is 100% compatible with us and doesn't have to be for successful relationships but there are certain things that are crucial to have in common.
Evaluating what are relationship deal breakers versus what are the price of admission can be challenging.
Having essential core values in common are much more important than shared interests and hobbies.
Authenticity Takes Practice
Self-discovery and growth is a worthwhile life-long process.
When we do this internal work, with fierce self-compassion, we peel the layers we’ve created to protect ourselves from harm and reconnect to our most authentic selves.