Characteristics of Codependency
When we experience being codependent, we miss opportunities for more enjoyable ways of relating.
Striking a balance between independence and autonomy while also having connection and togetherness is not easy to achieve — interdependence.
However, the pursuit of healthier relating and doing this dance of intimacy is worthy of our time and attention.
1. Low Self-Worth
Your family growing up may have been troubled or dysfunctional and you were made to feel like you were not good enough.
2. Weak Boundaries
You may know exactly what others feel and need but confuse that as your own.
3. Lack of Trust
You don't trust yourself, your feelings, or your decisions so you look to others to fill this void.
4. Control Issues
You feel out of control and without an internal compass so you find your clinging to others.
You spend a lot of time thinking about past and imagined future experiences with others.
You've been shamed for feeling angry and yet feel controlled by the fear of other people's anger.