Benefits of Sensitivity & Tenderness
Being sensitive and tender is pathologized in cultures that deem anything considered “feminine” to be less than.
It’s a self-empowering act to rebel against these messages and radically accept ourselves.
How to Reparent Yourself
6 Steps to Reparenting Yourself
The concept of reparenting yourself may seem odd but can be so instrumental in your process of healing, growth and enjoyment of life.
LGBTQIA+ Diversity Flags
Diversity within Diverse Communities
Let's celebrate the diversity of sexual and gender minorities within the LGBTQIA+ community. Flags have been used to demonstrate just this.
Successful Couples Counseling
Couples Counseling Improves Relationships
Have you ever been curious if couples counseling could improve your relationship? Do you want outside help to create a better relationship or to end your relationship amicably? Whether you’re in a high-conflict or conflict-avoidant relationship, whether you’re interested in rebuilding trust, communicating more effectively, or deepening vulnerability and intimacy with your partner(s), couples counseling with the right therapist and the right conditions, can be very effective.
Recovering From Sexual Violence
#METOO movement & the LGBTQ Community
In the past several weeks, multiple victims of sexual violence have highlighted the prevalence of their experiences in the entertainment industry as well as in politics. Too often the media has focused on the perpetrators of these acts, their denials, their minimizations, and their lack of responding with an adequate apology.
— But what about the victims?
Healing From A Break-Up
How are LGBTQ Break Ups Different?
Remember the exquisite pain of your first long-term relationship break up? Going through the ending of a significant relationship can be exponentially more difficult for LGBTQ people, having been rejected, demeaned and devalued by society-at-large and too often by our family of origin.
Why is aging so challenging for gay men?
Aging can bring with it fear of invisibility, rejection and physical decline. For gay men aging, these concerns can be heightened because of the extra pressures placed on us to look forever young — especially in Los Angeles. We might protect ourselves from this by busying our lives, denying the inevitable and spending an inordinate amount of time or money on looking young. Fortunately, there can be positive experiences with aging too.
Societal disapproval of age-disparate relationships
Imagine a gay couple whose age difference is greater than 10 years. What’s your first un-censored response when you imagine them? Do you judge, cringe, or assume what’s going on between them? Are you in a relationship with a much older/younger person but still have internalized shame about this?
Redefining Gay Marriage
Not Your Dictionary Definition
Gay men’s relationships have faced an onslaught of repeated attacks by society-at-large. Is gay marriage one of them?
How will marriage equality impact gay relationships? How will gay marriages redefine the social construct of marriage?
Community In The Face Of AIDS
AIDS used as a weapon against gay men
1984. Cyndi Lauper’s, “Time after Time,” becomes a top 40’s hit. Michael Jackson’s hair gets burned in a Pepsi commercial accident. Apple unveils its revolutionary Macintosh personal computer. Vanessa Williams surrenders her crown after her Penthouse magazine nude photos are discovered. Ronald Reagan still hasn’t uttered the word “AIDS” publicly and doesn’t do so until 1987 at the end of his second term.