Recognizing Signs without Judgment
Recognizing the signs someone is emotionally unavailable frees us up to find the right fit with someone else who is ready for what we want.
We don’t need to pathologize them or us in the process.
We can’t possibly meet ALL of our own needs.
We are ALL interconnected.
Saying No is Essential
One of the essential ways we can set healthier boundaries is by saying no.
Knowing a variety of ways of saying no can help us when it’s especially difficult to do so.
Exploring our Blind Spots
If we want to be in a long term relationship but keep finding ourselves with someone who isn’t available, it’s likely there’s something unconscious going on.
The more we can be curious, instead of judgmental, the more we can look at our blind spots to increase self-awareness about this dynamic and make subsequent changes.
There are some essentials that we deserve to give and receive in relationships that help them function at their best.
Codependency is when we live our lives through over-identifying with others feelings, beliefs, and needs to the point where we lose our sense of self.
Being Proactive is Key
The way we show up in relationships is ultimately what makes them easier.
It takes some upfront proactive work but can save a lot of unnecessary time and drama along the way.
Recognize Signs of Gaslighting
Have you ever had someone question your reality when even the truth was observable and obvious?
This is likely an example of gaslighting where someone else denies the truth and tries to instill doubt in you.
The Art of Effective Communication
Learning the art of effective communication is key to healthier and more enjoyable relationships.
Part of that process is making simple, understandable and specific requests.
Sensitive People are Gifts to Us
Sensitive Souls are gifts to our world.
At their best, they teach us to be kinder, more generous and compassionate.
Authenticity Takes Practice
Self-discovery and growth is a worthwhile life-long process.
When we do this internal work, with fierce self-compassion, we peel the layers we’ve created to protect ourselves from harm and reconnect to our most authentic selves.
Watch for Red Flags
There are several warning signs that our relationships need work to become healthier, need outside help — couples therapy — or need to end.
What signs show you that it’s no longer working, if it ever did?
Diversity of Friendships
What kind of friends help you thrive?
Friendships can even be stronger and healthier than family.
Benefits of Friendships
Having good solid friendships deepens our experience of life. They help us combat depression, anxiety and loneliness while also encouraging us to be our most authentic self, to let our hair down and let our freak-flag fly. AND they shine a light on the kind of friendship we want out of our long-term romantic/sexual relationships.
So why is it sometimes so hard to make new friends or maintain the ones we already have?
Meeting Like-Minded Friends
It’s not enough to know what kind of friends you want to make, you also need to put yourself out there in situations where you’re more likely to meet them over time. Where are you most likely to meet the kind of friends you want to have? Give yourself time to brainstorm here too.