When Should We Share Something?
There is so much conflict in the world made worse by violent speech.
An antidote to this is sharing mindfully.
This isn’t about censoring all speech but rather being more selective and considered.
Mindful speech is also impactful speech in addressing what really matters and needs to be said.
(This saying has been attributed to Quakers, Sufism, Socrates, Buddhism, and various poets/writers with similar variations.)
When considering whether to share something, use these 4 filters.
Is It True, Kind, Necessary & Well Timed?
Is It True?
Is it a lie, deceit, or gossip you hear second-hand?
Is it Kind?
Is it caring for yourself or others even if it's uncomfortable or impactful?
Is It Necessary?
Is sharing needed to repair, maintain, deepen or end your relationship?
Is It Well Timed?
Is it a good enough time to share, even if there's no perfect time to do so?
Being mindful with our words feeds relationships, including with ourselves.