Spending Our Time Wisely
It’s a self-empowering act to stop chasing people but rather spend our time more wisely with people who value our presence and naturally have time/interest in reciprocating.
The dance of intimacy includes moments of distancing and pursuing but when there's a consistent lack of mutuality, stop and address it.
The distance between us can be about pricing — slowing down or speeding up.
When we notice someone is being less available, we can reallocate our time elsewhere.
This isn't about playing games but rather about acknowledging where our time is most fruitful.
We can also ask the other person to initiate or reciprocate more if it's been a worthwhile relationship.
Sometimes the other person is just "not that into us" and instead of forcing it, we need to let it go.
It's self-empowering when we recognize our own self-worth and that no one can give it to us or take it away.