Essential Core Values are Key
No person is 100% compatible with us and doesn't have to be for successful relationships but there are certain things that are crucial to have in common.
Evaluating what are relationship deal breakers versus what are the price of admission can be challenging.
Having essential core values in common are much more important than shared interests and hobbies.
Authenticity Takes Practice
Self-discovery and growth is a worthwhile life-long process.
When we do this internal work, with fierce self-compassion, we peel the layers we’ve created to protect ourselves from harm and reconnect to our most authentic selves.
Self-Reflection is Essential
Whether makeup sex is healthy or not requires us to self-reflect on the surrounding circumstances.
Ask yourself these questions:
Unrealistic Expectations & Obstacles
There are so many unrealistic expectations about the dating process that lead to increasing frustration and unnecessary obstacles.
Being Kind Spreads Love
Being kind means treating ourselves and others with a generosity of spirit and warmth.
When we care deeply we spread love in the world.
Misconceptions about Relationships
There are so many misconceptions about healthy long term relationships.
Your relationship may not look like a Hollywood romance but still float your boat.
Who Am I?
That part of us that we call “self” is our ego.
Our ‘ego’ is that part that makes conscious adult decisions, and essentially mediates between the more impulsive child-like part of ourselves (id) and the moralistic parent-like part (superego).
Britney Spears gave a heartbreaking testimony this week about the abuse and trauma she’s experienced from her multi-year conservatorship.
Body Awareness is Freeing
Returning to your body is the ultimate resource for finding freedom within.
When you’re activated, coming back to your body is a way of grounding yourself.
Recognition of Juneteenth is Progress Forward
I'm thrilled that Juneteenth will now be honored as an official US holiday!
While there is so much more to be done in the fight for social and racial justice, this is one positive and significant step moving forward.
Diversity within Diverse Communities
Let's celebrate the diversity of sexual and gender minorities within the LGBTQIA+ community. Flags have been used to demonstrate just this.
Gender Pronouns Aren’t “Preferred”
Gender pronouns aren’t “preferred” they’re a statement of fact.
Instead of asking, “What are your preferred pronouns?” you can simply ask:
Our Mindset Matters
Radical change comes with a radical shift in our mindset.
Success requires us to take ourselves off autopilot and reflect on the messages we’re telling ourselves that are NOT helpful.
Anxiety is a Normal Response
Anxiety is a normal response to stressful situations but when it gets out of hand, can lead to intense distress, obsessive thoughts, phobias and even panic attacks. 😱
Healing is a Process
There are moments of progress and steps back to old ways of being. The process of healing and growing is not a straight line. 🔀
Self-Compassion is a Life-Long Journey
The relationship we have with ourselves needs continual attention and maintenance throughout our lives. 💚 How we treat ourselves sets the standard for how we treat others.
Internal Battles Are Painful
When we don’t protect ourselves and each other enough during this pandemic we can experience inner conflict.
One side of us wants freedom and connection while the other side desires safety and care.
Watch for Red Flags
There are several warning signs that our relationships need work to become healthier, need outside help — couples therapy — or need to end.
What signs show you that it’s no longer working, if it ever did?
Out with the Old & In with the New
There are many coping styles that we use depending on our creativity, resources and early modeling.
It’s crucial that we don’t judge them.
Trauma Response to Witnessing Events
Witnessing the insurrectionary riot on the US Capitol is traumatic.
Vicarious trauma is when our nervous system responds to seeing or hearing about a traumatic event as if it’s happening to us directly.
Pandemic Holiday Season 1.0
How in the world are we supposed to navigate this holiday season given, well... 2020?!? Not only have we had an extremely contentious election year, continued racial injustices, and environmental disasters, but we've also had an upsurge of an infectious coronavirus that has put much the world in quarantine lock-downs. How do we find & maintain hope in the midst of all this?
2/3rds of US Adults are Very Stressed about the Elections
In August, 2020, 68% of US Adults said that the upcoming elections are a significant source of stress in their lives, according to a Harris Poll (done on behalf of the American Psychological Association). This percentage was even larger for Democrats, black adults and those with a chronic health condition.
Characteristics of Healing
Healing is not always a straight line.
There can be peaks and valleys along the way which can be confusing.
Anxiety is a natural reaction to stressful events.
We ALL experience anxiety throughout our lives. It’s NOT a weakness.
Letting go is a liberating act.
When we let go of what no longer serves us, we embrace what does.