How to Respond to Rude People
How We Respond Matters
Current life events can bring out the worst in others.
How we respond to people being rude has an impact on our emotional health and well-being.
Dysfunctional Societal Expectations
Why We Do What We Do
When we find ourselves doing things that ultimately drain us, it’s frequently because we’ve internalized dysfunctional societal expectations.
Poor Dating Advice
Our Desire for Dating Certainty
Sometimes our desire for certainty in the dating process produces some really poor advice.
Reparenting Ourselves with Love
Caring for Our Inner Child
No one has a “perfect” childhood but the need to reparent ourselves is especially critical when our needs were consistently unmet.
Childhood wounds can interrupt our lives into adulthood but thankfully we can still learn, heal and grow.
Don't Feel All Your Feelings
Finding the Right Balance
Anything taken to an extreme can become problematic.
We don’t need to attend to all feelings and all thoughts.
Finding What Truly Matters
Core Values Connects Us to What Matters
When we’re connected to our life’s purpose and prioritize this in our daily lives, we live more fully.
Sign You're Codependent
Characteristics of Codependency
When we experience being codependent, we miss opportunities for more enjoyable ways of relating.
Striking a balance between independence and autonomy while also having connection and togetherness is not easy to achieve — interdependence.
Words of Support for Depressed Partners
Showing up for our loved ones can be challenging when they’re depressed.
What do we say? How can we help?
Impact of Childhood Trauma
Childhood Abuse Impacts Us into Adulthood
An integral part of healing from childhood abuse is recognizing the ways that it impacts us in the present.
Why Do You Over-Explain?
Over-Explaining is Often Unconscious
There are often underlying reasons for why we do what we do.
Letting Others Down
It's Okay to Disappoint Others
Finding the right balance between staying true to ourselves while also recognizing our impact is a tricky thing.
Value Your Partner
Never Undervalue a Partner That...
Make sure to express appreciation for qualities that your partner has that helps your relationship thrive.
Detachment Can Be beneficial
The Laws of Detachment
Trying to force things to be what they’re not, causes enormous pain and suffering.
Accepting and even detaching from things that are outside of our power and control can help us accept life as it is, even if we don’t always like it.
Coping with Unrequited Love
Need for Greater Self-Love
Most of us have experienced the pain of not receiving love back.
Sometimes unrequited love shines a spotlight on our need for greater self-love.
How to Boost Happy Hormones
Benefits of Neurotransmitters
Having our hormones in balance helps us live life more fully.
There are many things we can do to naturally boost the right amounts of chemicals in our bodies.
Introversion vs Social Anxiety
Introversion is Not Social Anxiety
We can confuse introversion with social anxiety, but they’re very different.
Introversion is a personality characteristic where we feel re-energized by spending alone time. It doesn’t mean we don’t also like being around people.
Love Bombing Isn't Love
It can sometimes be difficult to know if we’re in the honeymoon phase of a new exciting relationship or being “love bombed”.
Love bombing is when someone is saying and doing things we’ve always wanted but somehow it seems disingenuous or lacks the depth of experience it would take to get there.
Single People Stigma
Being Single & Happy
Too often single people are looked down on, excluded and projected onto.
The simple truth is that you can be single and happy, and in a relationship and miserable.
Love Triggers Us All
Relationships Activate Past Wounds
Our most intimate relationships have a way of activating our past wounds and bringing to light the areas we need to work on.
Know that while relationships can be messy they can still be worth the price of admission.
Being "Normal" is NOT the Goal
Living Our Most Authentic Lives Matters
One of the questions I get asked the most as a therapist is, “Am I normal?”
Underneath this question is often a desire to fit in, to belong, and to know that we’re not alone.
When Should We Share Something?
There is so much conflict in the world made worse by violent speech.
An antidote to this is sharing mindfully.
Don't Use Labels as a Weapon
Pathologizing Others Harms Us Too
Labeling other people’s behavior with derogatory and inaccurate terms is harmful for others but also for ourselves.
When we judge others harshly or project our own discomfort onto them, we’re less likely to give ourselves permission to be human and do our own growth.
5 to 1 Magic Relationship Ratio
Feed Relationships with Positive Experiences
The Magic Relationship Ratio for stable and happy relationships is 5 positive interactions (or more) for every 1 negative one. (Credit for Research on Magic Ratio: @gottmaninstitute & Robert Levenson)
It can be surprising to hear this but based on our self-protective negativity bias as humans we tend to focus on the negative for longer periods of time.
Stop Weaponizing Emotional Eating
More Compassion, Less Stigma
We’ve received so many messed up messages about food, eating, and our bodies that we can internalize these messages in harmful ways.
Instead of pathologizing and discriminating against diverse bodies, let’s appreciate all the colors of the body rainbow.
Stop Over Apologizing
Apologizing Isn't Always Necessary
Apologies are necessary in relationships but when we overdo it when it’s unnecessary it becomes problematic.
We don’t need to apologize for our existence.