 How We Respond MattersCurrent life events can bring out the worst in others.
How we respond to people being rude has an impact on our emotional health and well-being.
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 Why We Do What We DoWhen we find ourselves doing things that ultimately drain us, it’s frequently because we’ve internalized dysfunctional societal expectations.
 Our Desire for Dating CertaintySometimes our desire for certainty in the dating process produces some really poor advice.
 Caring for Our Inner ChildNo one has a “perfect” childhood but the need to reparent ourselves is especially critical when our needs were consistently unmet.
Childhood wounds can interrupt our lives into adulthood but thankfully we can still learn, heal and grow.  Finding the Right BalanceAnything taken to an extreme can become problematic.
We don’t need to attend to all feelings and all thoughts.  Core Values Connects Us to What MattersWhen we’re connected to our life’s purpose and prioritize this in our daily lives, we live more fully.
 Characteristics of CodependencyWhen we experience being codependent, we miss opportunities for more enjoyable ways of relating.
Striking a balance between independence and autonomy while also having connection and togetherness is not easy to achieve — interdependence.  Words of Support for Depressed PartnersShowing up for our loved ones can be challenging when they’re depressed.
What do we say? How can we help?  Childhood Abuse Impacts Us into AdulthoodAn integral part of healing from childhood abuse is recognizing the ways that it impacts us in the present.
 It's Okay to Disappoint OthersFinding the right balance between staying true to ourselves while also recognizing our impact is a tricky thing.
 Never Undervalue a Partner That...Make sure to express appreciation for qualities that your partner has that helps your relationship thrive.
 The Laws of DetachmentTrying to force things to be what they’re not, causes enormous pain and suffering.
Accepting and even detaching from things that are outside of our power and control can help us accept life as it is, even if we don’t always like it.  Need for Greater Self-LoveMost of us have experienced the pain of not receiving love back.
Sometimes unrequited love shines a spotlight on our need for greater self-love.  Benefits of NeurotransmittersHaving our hormones in balance helps us live life more fully.
There are many things we can do to naturally boost the right amounts of chemicals in our bodies.  Introversion is Not Social AnxietyWe can confuse introversion with social anxiety, but they’re very different.
Introversion is a personality characteristic where we feel re-energized by spending alone time. It doesn’t mean we don’t also like being around people.  It can sometimes be difficult to know if we’re in the honeymoon phase of a new exciting relationship or being “love bombed”.
Love bombing is when someone is saying and doing things we’ve always wanted but somehow it seems disingenuous or lacks the depth of experience it would take to get there.  Being Single & HappyToo often single people are looked down on, excluded and projected onto.
The simple truth is that you can be single and happy, and in a relationship and miserable.  Relationships Activate Past WoundsOur most intimate relationships have a way of activating our past wounds and bringing to light the areas we need to work on.
Know that while relationships can be messy they can still be worth the price of admission.  Living Our Most Authentic Lives MattersOne of the questions I get asked the most as a therapist is, “Am I normal?”
Underneath this question is often a desire to fit in, to belong, and to know that we’re not alone.  When Should We Share Something?There is so much conflict in the world made worse by violent speech.
An antidote to this is sharing mindfully.  Pathologizing Others Harms Us TooLabeling other people’s behavior with derogatory and inaccurate terms is harmful for others but also for ourselves.
When we judge others harshly or project our own discomfort onto them, we’re less likely to give ourselves permission to be human and do our own growth.  Feed Relationships with Positive ExperiencesThe Magic Relationship Ratio for stable and happy relationships is 5 positive interactions (or more) for every 1 negative one. (Credit for Research on Magic Ratio: @gottmaninstitute & Robert Levenson)
It can be surprising to hear this but based on our self-protective negativity bias as humans we tend to focus on the negative for longer periods of time.  More Compassion, Less StigmaWe’ve received so many messed up messages about food, eating, and our bodies that we can internalize these messages in harmful ways.
Instead of pathologizing and discriminating against diverse bodies, let’s appreciate all the colors of the body rainbow.  Apologizing Isn't Always NecessaryApologies are necessary in relationships but when we overdo it when it’s unnecessary it becomes problematic.
We don’t need to apologize for our existence. |
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