Why We Do What We Do
When we find ourselves doing things that ultimately drain us, it’s frequently because we’ve internalized dysfunctional societal expectations.
These are moments that we can get curious as to why we’re doing what we’re doing so we can choose differently.
Examples of Dysfunctional Societal Expectations:
1. Urgency culture that expects you to be available at all times with a lack of healthy boundaries.
2. People pleasing at your own expense and labeling this as empathy and love.
3. An expectation that everything must be done in the name of achievement.
4. Looking for partners or friends to rescue us in order to be happy.
5. Shaming peers or attacking them to displace our own insecurities.
6. Shopping to avoid feeling pain or to fill a void.
7. Working at a job that makes you feel uninspired and burnt out.
8. Normalizing family and friendship dynamics that are abusive.
9. Using manipulation to gain power or superiority in relationships.