Don't Be the Bigger Person

Have Reasonable Expectations

Too often we’re told to “Rise Above” or “Be the Bigger Person” in situations where we’re being poorly treated.

This can too easily be misinterpreted that we shouldn’t advocate for ourselves, ask for more or set appropriate boundaries

Instead, showing ourselves compassion means letting them sit with their discomfort/guilt with how they’ve treated us, or simply walking away if things have become too problematic.

Too often "being the bigger person" or "rising above" is misinterpreted to mean we must put up with maltreatment from others or accept scraps from their table.

You don't have to hold the discomfort for the other person to keep the peace.

You can push back, advocate for yourself and expect more.

It's not your job to make other people feel more comfortable about treating you poorly.

You can show yourself more compassion than only empathizing with problematic behaviors.

You don't have to water down your pain so that the other person feels less guilty.

It's okay to walk away and prioritize healthier relationships, including with yourself.

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