Is Makeup Sex Healthy?

6/29/2021

Self-Reflection is Essential

Whether makeup sex is healthy or not requires us to self-reflect on the surrounding circumstances.

Ask yourself these questions:

Was the conflict actually resolved well enough?
If the conflict went unresolved, will it get addressed later?
Are all parties involved enthusiastically consenting to the makeup sex?

Sex and conflict can strengthen intimacy when all partners involved are using them consciously.

Here are some common questions that get asked…

Is sex more likely to occur on days when we experience conflict?

Is sex that occurs in conflict more satisfying?

Sometimes arousal from conflict increases the intensity of sexual activity. Sex after conflict can be a way to repair, reconnect, and reassure the relationship.

However, unresolved conflict can build resentment & harm relationships, which can decrease desire for intimacy. If sex is used to avoid resolving conflict then it can become problematic.