Why We Ignore Red Flags

Self-Awareness is Key

Red flags in new friendships and relationships tell us that something is potentially problematic about the other person or our dynamic with them.

Red flags can be things like:

• Not following through on commitments enough of the time
  
• Speaking poorly about us behind our backs
  
• Criticizing and invalidating us
  
• Being self-absorbed
  
• Not reciprocating enough of the time
  
• Gaslighting us (convincing us that things we sense/observe aren’t true)

So then why do we ignore these red flags?

When red flags feel like home, we don’t notice them.

We were groomed to believe that being treated poorly was okay.

We are attracted to relationships that mirror our childhood experiences that are familiar to us.

We unconsciously desire to heal past wounds by recreating them as adults, hoping for a different outcome.

We crave connection and companionship more than we honor personal integrity.

Increasing our self-awareness about all this helps us choose differently to enjoy healthier relationships.

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