 There is a particular kind of confusion that can emerge when your life is going well. You've worked hard, your career has momentum, you're respected for what you do, and perhaps you've reached a level of financial security that an earlier version of yourself would have found extraordinary. From the outside, there may be plenty of evidence that you've succeeded.
And yet, somewhere beneath all of that success, there can be an uncomfortable realization. You built the life you were working toward. Why doesn't it feel the way you thought it would?
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 From the outside, you may look like you're thriving. You're capable, responsive, organized, and remarkably good at solving complicated problems. You anticipate what could go wrong before it happens, keep projects moving, remember what other people forget, and somehow manage to stay composed when everything around you is changing.
Maybe you've built a successful career in tech. Perhaps you're an engineer, founder, executive, product leader, investor, or someone whose work requires you to think several moves ahead. Your ability to analyze, anticipate, and respond quickly may be part of what has made you so successful. And yet, when the workday ends, your mind doesn't seem to get the message. Key Points:
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