 Poor Behaviors Aren't NecessaryJust because we feel strongly about something doesn’t mean we have the right to treat others poorly.
This isn’t about perfection or being robotic, it’s about learning and taking responsibility for our lives
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 Replacing Self-Judgment with Self-CompassionOur “Inner Child” represents that part of ourselves that is playful, creative and yet has also been hurt.
Instead of kicking ourselves when we’re down, we can learn to console ourselves with encouragement and love.  Have Reasonable ExpectationsToo often we’re told to “Rise Above” or “Be the Bigger Person” in situations where we’re being poorly treated.
This can too easily be misinterpreted that we shouldn’t advocate for ourselves, ask for more or set appropriate boundaries  Finding Balance with Our Feelings“Feeling our feelings” can be taken to an extreme where we’re doing it 24/7.
This is about striking the right balance between overindulging & ruminating on one side and denying or ignoring on the other.  Taking Action Can Bring InsightHaving insight is certainly helpful but it’s not necessary for change.
Knowing ourselves is a life-long journey where we learn how to navigate life well.  Benefits of Sensitivity & TendernessBeing sensitive and tender is pathologized in cultures that deem anything considered “feminine” to be less than.
It’s a self-empowering act to rebel against these messages and radically accept ourselves.  Kindness is a Powerful Tool for ChangeBeing kind is too often mistaken for being nice, passive or a pushover.
Instead, kindness is a powerful tool for change.  We Can Have Internal Resolution without ForgivenessWhile forgiveness is useful for minor offenses in ongoing relationships it isn’t a requirement for healing larger-scale abuses.
We too often are too quick to forgive as a way of trying to avoid the pain of what it actually takes to do so.  Being Curious Instead of Judgmental Of OurselvesInstead of getting lost in the drama of toxic relationships, it’s a better use of our time to mindfully explore what draws us to them in the first place.
 What is the Inner Critic?Our Inner Critic is that part of ourselves that judges us no matter what we say or do.
It operates to protect us from rejection, embarrassment and failure but does so in a way that causes us harm.  Why Do We Crave Stress?If we grew up in chaotic homes, we can equate intensity with love and aliveness.
It becomes a security blanket that suffocates our ability to more thoroughly enjoy life.  Triggers are Part of the Healing ProcessThe word “triggers” has been popularized to mean any kind of discomfort or stressor in life.
 Internalizing the Critical ParentWhen we have a parent or caregiver that’s overly critical of us, we can internalize these messages into adulthood and do it to ourselves.
Instead of judging ourselves for being judgmental, we can use the tool of mindfulness to notice how this impacts us, where it comes from and be curious so that we can begin the process of increasing self-compassion.  It's not worth losing ourselves!Our mental health matters WAY more than, “Winning the gold!”
When we neglect our mental health in the pursuit of success we put ourselves at risk of losing ourselves in the process. So not worth it!  Urgency Culture Leads to Burn OutWe’re living in a society that demands that we’re in a constant state of urgency.
Recognizing this auto-pilot way of doing things gives us a pause to shift our pace so we can slow down and choose differently.  Codependency DefinitionCodependency is when we live our lives through over-identifying with others feelings, beliefs, and needs to the point where we lose our sense of self.
 Don't Let Your Hurt Child Run Your Adult LifeHow we show up for our hurt child makes all the difference in how much we enjoy our adult life.
 6 Steps to Reparenting YourselfThe concept of reparenting yourself may seem odd but can be so instrumental in your process of healing, growth and enjoyment of life.
 Feeling Satisfaction with ProgressFeeling a sense of satisfaction by our progress to date is a sign of healing. Here are some others.
 Mental Health AwarenessLiving with a mental illness is challenging, even if you’re able to function well enough to maintain a job and personal life.
Thankfully, there are many treatments and supports available. #mentalhealthawareness  Accountability Can Lead to Self-EmpowermentWhen accountability is operating at its best, it’s an empowering agent of change.
 Recognize Signs of GaslightingHave you ever had someone question your reality when even the truth was observable and obvious?
This is likely an example of gaslighting where someone else denies the truth and tries to instill doubt in you.  Self-Awareness is UsefulDo you have a habit of pleasing people while ignoring your own needs?
Understanding where this came from can be the first step to creating change.  Body Awareness is FreeingReturning to your body is the ultimate resource for finding freedom within.
When you’re activated, coming back to your body is a way of grounding yourself.  Recognition of Juneteenth is Progress ForwardI'm thrilled that Juneteenth will now be honored as an official US holiday!
While there is so much more to be done in the fight for social and racial justice, this is one positive and significant step moving forward. |
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